You’ve likely heard people talk about staying together for the kids. Some parents, who would otherwise dissolve their own marriages, don’t want to do so since they have children.
Naturally, every situation is different, and parents have to make their own decisions on what is best for them and their kids. Staying together can help each parent have more time around the children.
However, some who have experienced this do say that there can be drawbacks. When parents know they don’t want to stay together, living that way for years will likely cause a lot of problems. In some ways, this may create a stressful and unhealthy living situation for the children, who are now trapped with unhappy parents who are constantly fighting.
One man who went through this said his parents finally broke things off after he was an adult. He noticed that both of them were happier when they finally split up. Though he was no longer a child, he said that their changed attitudes helped him be happier, as well. He claimed that two parents who were happy and separated may actually be an improvement, for themselves and the children, over two parents who were together and miserable.
Again, every situation is different, but parents do usually want to focus on the best interests of the children. That may mean working to figure out a child custody plan that can keep both parents involved in the kids’ lives, reduce the stress in the house, and help everyone get what they’re looking for — even if the marriage has to end. If you choose this path, make sure you know your rights and how to create the best possible custody arrangement.
Source: Huffington Post, “The Problem With Staying Together For The Kids,” Joe DeProspero, accessed April 21, 2017