The dangerous connection between divorce and social media

Before the advent of smartphones, social media and constant connectedness, a divorcing couple could get a respite from one another. After all, sending a letter or good old fashioned stalking takes a fair amount of effort. These days, checking up on an ex’s activities and whereabouts takes about three clicks of the mouse. We may live in the information age, but too much information can be a bad thing, especially when children are involved; it may not be in the best interests of the child to have two parents duking it out on the Internet for the world to see.

With that in mind, let’s look at some tips for keeping your sanity in this brave new world:

  • A simple text to an ex can turn into a war of epic proportions. If you need to find something out from your former spouse, get the info and get out without sarcasm or biting comments. Though the urge may be strong, resist the desire to engage.
  • Don’t air your dirty laundry on social media. These days, we tend to treat Facebook and Twitter as cathartic releases or flimsy therapists. But putting every incident and emotion involved in your divorce out there for the world is counterproductive and can hurt the children by proxy.
  • It’s understandable that you want to keep tabs on a former spouse, but stalking him or her on social media is only going to lead to anger or hurt feelings.

Rather than deal with things online, make sure you’ve covered all your bases legally by having an attorney by your side throughout the divorce process.