If you anticipate a custody battle, keep records

Maybe you and your ex started out doing well with your child custody plan right after your divorce. Over the next two years, though, things started to fall apart. You have a lot of concerns, and you think you’ll probably wind up back in court, debating what is really best for the child.

If so, it’s very important to keep a log of all of the concerns that you have and all of the communication that takes place between you and your spouse.

For example, save text messages that your spouse sends you. If you see important posts on social media, take screen shots so that your spouse can’t delete them. Save voicemails that are left. If you talk on the phone or in person, write notes after the fact and date them. Keep any letters or physical notes. If there are witnesses to any of this, consider getting written statements from them, as well.

It may sound like a lot of work, but the problem is that you and your ex may end up going to court and disagreeing with one another about what happened or what was said. With no records, it’s just a “he said, she said” situation.

If you can produce solid records, gets a child’s teacher or daycare worker to comment, or offer a written account of what happened and when, it strengthens your case considerably. This can help if you want to make changes to the custody agreement or even try to get sole custody. Make sure you know all of your legal options and how collecting evidence can help you make use of them.

Source: Since My Divorce, “Child Custody Challenges After Divorce,” accessed March 09, 2017