In the early stages of divorce, people spend a lot of time focusing on the legal aspects of their case. Sure, it’s important to get things right from a legal perspective. However, it’s just as vital to prioritize self-care—activities that promote mental and physical health—during this time. Doing so can make it easier to navigate the divorce process, and we’ve got three simple, yet impactful steps to help you get started.
Step 1: Don’t be afraid to ask for support.
People aren’t joking when they say going through a divorce feels like a death. For many people, it really does. That’s why it’s so important to reach out for support and not go it alone.
For some people, this means seeing a family counselor—something our Fort Worth law firm highly recommends, especially when children and child custody are involved. Other people rely on friends and family for support. Many places of worship offer “divorce care” programs and a variety of support groups are available both in-person and online.
What’s most important is that you dedicate time to focus on your mental health. Everybody is different. Try one or a combination of the options above to find out what works best for you.
Step 2: Create a timeline of events leading up to your divorce.
This is something our Tarrant County divorce attorneys always ask our clients to do. Not only does this process help your attorney better understand what’s going on in your life, but it can also be therapeutic for you. Writing down what happened to you during the relationship is an important step if you want to figure out what led you to divorce.
Once you’ve created your timeline, re-read it regularly and refresh it as other memories come up. The process of creating a timeline isn’t intended to remind you of the pain of the past. Instead, it can serve as a way to analyze what happened and help you realize you don’t need to live with that pain or perhaps even accept the bad behavior of your ex.
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Step 3: Commit to making one, new positive habit, NOW.
We’ve seen a lot of clients who choose to self-medicate to cope with the stress of divorce. Alcohol and drugs only make things worse. Jumping headfirst into a new relationship isn’t a good idea either. Instead, focus on accomplishing something positive. We even recommend starting small, taking baby steps, if you will.
It could be as easy as committing to making your bed as soon as you get up in the morning, taking longer walks with your dog or meditating 10 minutes every day. Maybe you want to heal a relationship with a friend or family member that fell apart because your spouse interfered. Commit to picking up the phone and reconnecting with people.
By starting small, you’ll feel a sense of accomplishment very quickly, not to mention, over and over again. When that sense of accomplishment becomes reinforced, that one small activity eventually turns into a positive habit that can give you the confidence boost you need to take the next step. It’s like training for a marathon, essentially.
Committing to self-care may also help you in court.
It’s always important to show your best self in front of the judge. If you take care of your physical and mental health, work on personal growth and make positive lifestyle changes, the judge will see that, and that could work to your benefit.
Need help figuring out the legal side of your divorce? If you live in Tarrant County, our experienced team of family lawyers is here to help. To schedule a confidential case review with our founder Justin Sisemore, contact us by phone at (817) 336-4444 or visit our contact page to connect with us online.